Helping Others Has Been A Lifelong Passion
Listening to, supporting, and empathizing with others comes naturally to me. My friends and family have always considered me someone they could confide in when they’re struggling emotionally. I have been told that my calm presence and open-mindedness make them feel safe to share their vulnerabilities with me.
As a therapist, the relationship I build with clients is the key to success. My goal for clients is for them to experience a safe, open, and non-judgmental environment in our sessions together. Once comfortable, they will be able to embark on the journey of improving their lives for the better.
My Background And Specialties
My work at non-profit organizations provided me with 11 years of experience working with at-risk youth dealing with such issues as suicidal ideation, pregnancy and parenting, drug addiction, defiance, and anger management. Working with this population opened my eyes to the injustices inherent in our broken social support system, a cause that is still near and dear to my heart.
What initially drew me to working with children and teens was my personal experience with trauma when I was that age. Simply put, I can relate to children in crisis and know how challenging it is to be vulnerable with someone new. Fortunately, seeing a therapist proved to be life-changing for me. Not only did working through my trauma make me a more empathetic person, but it has also made me a better therapist.
What’s more, I’ve always enjoyed the infectious energy that comes with working with kids. Finding common ground and speaking their language helps me gain their respect. However, therapy is invariably a collaborative process with their parents. By consulting with parents throughout sessions and working as a team, we will come together to help their children develop healthier coping skills.
My Practice And Specialties
In private practice, I specialize in providing therapy to children, teens, and adults dealing with anxiety, depression, and obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). I enjoy building rapport and trust with my clients by using humor, empathy, and validation. I walk the fine line of validating my client’s experiences while also challenging them to be open to making positive changes.
Further, my experience has helped me cultivate the ability to know how to disarm a client who may not want to participate in therapy. I aim to make a positive first impression so they will give the therapeutic process a chance, both now and in the future.
The treatment modality I utilize most frequently is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). The self-awareness and emotional relief my clients experience through CBT have transformed their lives. As my clients become aware of how thoughts, feelings, and behaviors interact together, they can challenge their irrational beliefs and cope better in life. In addition, I often combine different approaches, such as Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and Solution-Focused Therapy to best fit my client’s needs.
A Little More About Me
I am a warm and caring individual who is passionate about helping others. Volunteering with youth-oriented groups, allows me to stay connected to my community. Within these roles, I have served on many non-profit executive boards, working hard to create a safe and welcoming environment for everyone.
As a parent of three children, I have been able to implement my education and training into my parenting approach. I have learned first-hand that my response to my children’s emotions and behaviors can have a significant impact on their lives, both negatively and positively.
My family loves going on adventures together, from camping at the beach to visiting national parks. We also enjoy gardening and caring for our many pets, including chickens, rabbits, cats, and a turtle. I strive to experience life fully and mindfully with my family and friends.
Mary Haire is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based in Riverside County who offers telehealth throughout Southern California. After receiving a Bachelor’s Degree of Arts in Psychology in 2001, Mary went on to receive a Master’s Degree in Counseling Psychology from National University in 2007. She became a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in 2010. She gained experience while working as a Mental Health Therapist for children, teens, and their families at Crittenton Services for Children and Families, a non-profit organization.